A close friend of mine started vlogging and one of her videos is named ' Failing at Life' (Drop by and say hello to her, she has a rather amazing camera and a more amazing sense of humor that comes from being bookish and intelligent)

In this video, she talked about looking around and being disappointed instead of being inspired because there is always someone who does things better than her. Someone faster, someone stronger, someone smarter, someone funnier etc.

This is a paradoxical statement because saying there is always someone better means there are people better than the people who are better than me. Since the better-ness doesn't come in cycles -- meaning I am not better than the person who is better than everyone better than me, the statement contradicts itself since there is no ultimate better-ness bur only a state of being the best.

Obviously there may be people who are better at some things than me, but I can be the best at something if I try. I know there are people out there who can sing better than me, but that's not my area of expertise. I don't wreck myself over it like many people. (Hence B itterness over B etterness). After all, what did Einstein say?

"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."

 I can write and I strive to write the best I can. I can be the best writer who writes in my style and in my voice. Nobody can write better than me using my tone and my sense of writing. If I create something original, something purely new, then nobody can imitate it and make it better than mine. I create my work and I am the best at creating my work because I am the one who supplies the idea behind the work and I am the one who develops and grows the work. People can re-write my work, people can edit my work, people can criticize my work, but it would not have been there without me and that makes me the best at creating my work.

So, yes we can be the best at things we want to be the best in. There aren't people who are better than me at everything. Nobody is better than me at writing this post. Nobody is better than me at staying up till 2 am in the morning to finish this post. Nobody is better than me at what I do with a passion. In a society where we are all told to be individuals while fitting into the norm, I am best at doing things my own creative way and I may not follow the guidelines, and I may look out of place, but it's the way I do things and I am the absolute best at doing things my way.

Lots of mirrors
~Belle